How to Crush Without Being Crushed
The Art of Relationships, Real and Imagined
Over at FeelGooder.com, there’s an interesting article that came up about Emotional Affairs. You should go check that out. I think it touches on one of the key issues that I’ve seen destroy a lot of relationships. The lack of connection that makes the heart begin to wander always leads to a breakdown in communication. [...]
Back in 1993, there was a little film called Groundhog Day. In it, Bill Murray plays Phil, a weatherman sent to good old Punxsutawney, PA, to cover the festivities. He’s none too happy about it and just wants to get it over with and go home… but finds himself living the same day over and [...]
We all have within us both positive and negative aspects. Hopes and fears, likes and dislikes, things we love about ourselves, things we hate about ourselves. It’s the friction between all of these opposing ideas that keeps our lives interesting, but also can make it very difficult at times. Some of the most difficult times [...]
If you’re a dedicated crusher, does that mean you can’t date? If you’re dating (either one person or many), does that mean you shouldn’t be crushing? The answer to both of those questions is “No!” Just because you don’t need to be in a relationship–because you’re comfortable with yourself or because you’re actively going against [...]
Whether you’re falling into crush after crush or getting yourself involved in a series of real relationships, there are going to be all sorts of things you’re going to have to deal with. While crushing, you have to deal with all those random imagined qualities of the person you’re crushing on. You’re going to have [...]
Last time, I talked a bit about figuring out what you bring to the table in a relationship. That focused mostly on your particular self-image and how much you can give when you get involved with someone else. There’s another component that everyone always complains about in other people, but few take the time to [...]
Once you have a starting point, two practices will have to be cultivated in order to take active control of your personal growth. These attitudes have their roots in classical spiritual practices like Buddhism, but have long been used in more secular arenas for good reason: they work. One, Mindfulness, keeps you tuned in to [...]