Clearing the Way to Your Instinct

Tweet An article came up in my newsfeed about how to trust your instinct. It had some great tips: Listen to your body Understand your brain chemistry Focus on your first response Challenge your instinct Don’t ignore it These are all things I heavily advocate. (As can be seen by that post I did the […]

The Truth About Love

Tweet A few weeks ago, I picked up a handful of books. One of them, Man’s Search for Meaning, has been on my list for a long time. For years, I’ve been falling back on quotes by the book’s author, Viktor Frankl. They’ve at various times inspired me, kept me going, given me direction. But […]

How Do I Feel About Valentine’s Day?

Tweet Once upon a time, the answer would have been, unabashedly, that I hate Valentine’s Day. For many years that was my stance on the saccharine-sweet, commerce-created, sap-fest that happens every February 14th. Of course, that’s when I was single and bitter about it… so… yeah. As years have passed since those dark and lonely […]

4 Things You Can Do to Add Quality to Any Relationship

Tweet Over the years I’ve made a lot of mistakes in relationships. Over those same years, I’ve watched a lot of other people make a lot more. (Mostly because I wasn’t actually doing anything other than observing… hard to make mistakes of your own when you’re not participating.) From all that pain and suffering (plus […]

A Self-Sustaining Core

Tweet In order to survive the worst a relationships–or lack of relationship–can throw at you, you need one thing above all else: A self-sustaining core. By that I mean you have to know yourself well enough to understand that things will be okay, that they’ll get better, and that, despite what your negative self may […]

Being Mindful of Who You Are

Tweet Not to get all new agey on you, but I’ve found that this really helps in a lot of situations. One of the core precepts of Buddhism is mindfulness. Mindfulness is tuning in and paying attention to who and where you are right now. It anchors you in the present moment. Now, it’s not […]

The More You Talk About It, The Better It Gets

Tweet One of the points I mentioned in my last post, about how to make it through tough times, was to tell your story. This is, by far, the thing I’ve found works best for me and many people I know. There are a couple more in-depth “tricks”–things that make the difference between just whining […]

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