How to Crush Without Being Crushed
The Art of Relationships, Real and Imagined
A friend of mine recently posted a link to a webcomic I used to read regularly. Following that link did two things: 1) It made me realize just how long it’s been since I’ve checked in on the characters in that strip and 2) it reminded me just why I loved the comic so much [...]
Sometimes, it’s easy to tell our decisions are fear-based. Our hearts are pounding, cold sweat on our brow, and we’re facing down something we know, without a doubt we’re afraid of. But fear is an insidious thing and shows up in many forms. At it’s most sneaky, it weasels its way into the nooks and [...]
Given the chance, I like to point readers here toward relationship-based entertainment when I can. The main criteria being it has to have a certain level of quality. There has to be heart to it–not just the same old crude and crass pot shots any old sitcom takes (and sitcoms have been taking the same [...]
If you’re a dedicated crusher, does that mean you can’t date? If you’re dating (either one person or many), does that mean you shouldn’t be crushing? The answer to both of those questions is “No!” Just because you don’t need to be in a relationship–because you’re comfortable with yourself or because you’re actively going against [...]
Before you can have a truly deep and meaningful relationship with others, you have to cultivate one with yourself. A big part of that is learning to be alone, comfortably–to enjoy your own company and not rely on the constant hum and sputter of the world at large to keep you from getting to know [...]
When did you last see fireworks? No, not the kind that’ll be going off in the sky this weekend… the kind between you and another person. That old trope used in everything from classic cartoons to sitcoms to bad teen poetry, like many cliches, does have a granular bit of usefulness and truth to it. [...]
For those who have loved and lost, as oh so many have, there’s often talk of “trying to find that feeling again” or being worried that “there won’t be anyone like him again”. Talk like that is, realistically speaking, useless. We are different every minute of the day–always changing based on internal and external stimuli. [...]