How to Crush Without Being Crushed

Back in 2005, I was inspired during on online comment exchange to start in on a book about crushes. More specifically, the rules regarding crushes.

With a little more reflection, that turned into my idea for How to Crush Without Being Crushed. The main theme to the whole book is that you can learn a lot about yourself from the crushes you get on others. Basically a “how to learn from the relationships you’ll never have and apply that knowledge to the ones you will.”

The theory is all anchored in being able to tell fantasy from reality and, at one point or another, being able to detach yourself from your situation enough to clearly see where your influences are coming from and where your wants end and your needs begin.

This site is the working document for that theory and a collection of stories, musings and research regarding relationships in general.

Praise for WithoutBeingCrushed.com:

“I never read any of these series posts before because they were so long, but I’m glad I read this one. It’s wonderful. It reminds me of “The Missing Piece” by Shel Silverstein.”

“Very insightful. :) I enjoyed reading.”

“This website is a godsend! I’m surprised you don’t have a harem of women… or do you?”

“For some reason I’m feeling a bit like a fan girl, but I have to say I am really impressed with your finishing line.” (In response to this post.)

“This has been a wonderful story to follow. Thank you for writing it down.” (In response to this post.)

“This is going to be such a wonderful book.”

“I can entirely imagine myself reading this in a book.”

“Sounds like an excellent idea for a book! I wonder what I can learn about myself from my current crush on the 1973 Michael Landon…”