How to Crush Without Being Crushed
The Art of Relationships, Real and Imagined
Back in 1993, there was a little film called Groundhog Day. In it, Bill Murray plays Phil, a weatherman sent to good old Punxsutawney, PA, to cover the festivities. He’s none too happy about it and just wants to get it over with and go home… but finds himself living the same day over and [...]
When did you last see fireworks? No, not the kind that’ll be going off in the sky this weekend… the kind between you and another person. That old trope used in everything from classic cartoons to sitcoms to bad teen poetry, like many cliches, does have a granular bit of usefulness and truth to it. [...]
Consistency is one of the most palpable stabilizers of a relationship. If someone we’re involved with–be it romantically or not–is changing plans and direction a dozen or more times a day, we’re left spinning in circles trying to keep up (at best) or so frustrated we’re ready to just give up and go on our [...]
As you can probably tell, I spend a lot of time thinking about things. (Here, it’s specifically relationship and personal internal working stuff, but I assure you there is much much more going on in my head.) Thought is important. Without thought, we are prone to doing very stupid things. Sure, some people can live [...]
Whether it’s in regards to a crush, an actual relationship or any other facet of your life, being able to tell when you’re falling into a negative spiral is the first step in not getting stuck in a very bad place. A negative spiral is a pattern of thought or behavior that is self-reinforcing and [...]