How to Crush Without Being Crushed
The Art of Relationships, Real and Imagined
Far too often we treat Love like it is a scarce thing. Like there’s only so much to go around. Like if we give too much, we’ll be left broke and empty handed. Nothing could be further from the truth. Love is one of the only unlimited resources we’re ever going to come across. It [...]
Back in 1993, there was a little film called Groundhog Day. In it, Bill Murray plays Phil, a weatherman sent to good old Punxsutawney, PA, to cover the festivities. He’s none too happy about it and just wants to get it over with and go home… but finds himself living the same day over and [...]
A friend of mine recently posted a link to a webcomic I used to read regularly. Following that link did two things: 1) It made me realize just how long it’s been since I’ve checked in on the characters in that strip and 2) it reminded me just why I loved the comic so much [...]
Looking at our interactions with ourselves and others we’re faced with two concepts again and again, the two Big Rs of relationships: Response and Responsibility. Both can be active or passive, positive or negative, and we have control over both. At least to some extent. Response When something happens, we inevitable respond. Sometimes those responses [...]
Once you’re aware how you’re being influenced by aspects of your negative self, especially the fear it uses to hold you back, you can begin to deal with it. There are a number of ways to deal with your negative self. Some will be more effective for you than others, and not all are usable [...]
Recently, I was reminded of what an important role faith plays in my life. I don’t often talk about faith here, after all, this is a blog about crushes and relationships. But faith is one of those intrinsic things that permeates all areas of our life. And when it comes to sustaining a relationship–or surviving [...]
Once you’re aware that certain types of fear are more likely to occur in relationship situations and you accept how insidious they can be. You can begin to watch for clues that your decisions are being based on fearful thinking (as opposed to clear thinking). Here are five things that are often signs of fear-based [...]