Why Fall In Love?

Tweet A few weeks ago, I wrote a post that touched on my concept and practice of unconditional Love. That prompted my friend Sarah to ask: If there are no conditions, what is the basis for falling in love in the first place? Really, that’s a darn good question. One that hopeless romantics like myself […]

Standing and Falling

Tweet Starting in January of 1999, I was completely single–not even a date–for about a decade. Happily so for most of that time. Many people don’t understand how this can be possible, but the fact is, I am comfortable and happy being single. I don’t seek out relationships or flings or, well, anything. I don’t […]

The Music of Love

Tweet Just the other week, there was an article that pointed to a study making the claim that listening to romantic music (love songs) increases a person’s predisposition to entertain romantic thoughts and accept romantic advances. I don’t find the idea all that outlandish. In fact, it makes plenty of good sense to me. Now […]


Tweet When did you last see fireworks? No, not the kind that’ll be going off in the sky this weekend… the kind between you and another person. That old trope used in everything from classic cartoons to sitcoms to bad teen poetry, like many cliches, does have a granular bit of usefulness and truth to […]

Now and Later: The Truth Behind the Myth of The One

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series The One

Tweet The main problems with the idea of The One True Love of your life come from a watering down, glazing over and outright manipulation of the myths that once upon a time laid out a pretty sensible picture of love, life, relationships and romance (when there was any to be had). The Big Secret […]

Once Upon A Time: The Root of the Myth of The One

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series The One

Tweet Once upon a time, before humans could crisscross the globe in a matter of hours and chat with one another instantaneously from anywhere on the planet, geography was a severe limitation. Where you were born was more or less where you’d grow up, reproduce, and die. Until the high days of seafaring exploration, someone […]

The Myth of The One (and the truth behind it)

This entry is part 1 of 3 in the series The One

Tweet We’re often told in fairy tales and pop culture that there is some One Great True Love out there for us to find. Some people spend their entire lives waiting for it to show up on their doorstep. Others burn through relationships like flash paper seeking that divine choir that will indicate their quest […]

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