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What is a ‘Successful’ Crush?

March 8, 2010 By Kier Duros 1 Comment

One of the comments I got from last week’s tale of successfully crush revelation raised the question of what a successful crush entailed. The simple answer is this: A successful crush is one that helps you become a better person while causing as few new problems as possible. That’s it. Too often we confuse and [...]

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Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part II)

March 5, 2010 By Kier Duros 1 Comment

So I’ve talked about how to tell someone you have a crush on them and why you’d want to do that. I figure now it’s time I share a couple of stories from my own life. Just a little while ago, I told you about one that didn’t go so well. Now I’d like to [...]

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Failure and Success: Telling Someone About the Crush (Part I)

March 5, 2010 By Kier Duros 1 Comment

So I’ve talked about how to tell someone you have a crush on them and why you’d want to do that. I figure now it’s time I share a couple of stories from my own life. One when things went pretty darn wrong and another where they went considerably better. A Failure to Understand Back [...]

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Why Speak Up

March 3, 2010 By Kier Duros 4 Comments

After last week’s post about how to tell someone you have a crush on them, I was met again and again with two major questions: Why not just ask them out? and Why tell them? The first I answered a while ago here. In a nutshell: dating isn’t something everyone enjoys doing. At least not [...]

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Breaking the Silence: 5 Steps to Announcing Your Crush

February 23, 2010 By Kier Duros 2 Comments

With International Crush Day having just passed, I hope some of you let fly with declarations of wild interest to some of your crushes. Me? I discovered that I really don’t have many actual crushes around I haven’t told about my crush on them. And those that I do have… well, they’re not quite ripe [...]

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Mending a Broken Heart

February 19, 2010 By Kier Duros 4 Comments

Those who’ve read through here regularly know that a crush doesn’t need to lead to heartbreak. Heck, the end of an actual relationship doesn’t need to go there, either. But it happens to the best of us, no matter how prepared we think we are. And when it does, we have to figure out how [...]

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Rules of Engagement: 5 Checks and Balances

December 21, 2009 By Kier Duros 4 Comments

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s how easily I can fall back into old patterns. And my old patterns when it comes to romantic feelings are far from beneficial to me or anyone else who may be involved. I can very quickly fall into an obsessive, self-destructive crush mode. On the [...]

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