Talk About Sex?

Mid-week question for all y’all: Where did you get most of your sex education?

Perhaps more importantly, where do you think people should get sex ed from?

Should there be more or less talk about it?

It’s always a hotly debated topic at school boards and among religious and secular folks. I’m curious what my readers here think.

  • Lillian

    Gosh, I got it lots of places. I mean a lot of the basic medical stuff was from school, but my mom was always open to talking about it and I knew that. I think that that’s VERY important. She was very relaxed about sex and you could always say or ask anything you needed to. I’m the same with my daughter, although on a very rudimentary level yet because she’s only seven. My sexuality is very relaxed and healthy and I credit her with that.

    But then also when I got to be active, I may have bought a collection of books on the topic. Perhaps. Sex was fascinating and amazing for me from an early age, and I wanted to learn all about it from the very beginning. I bought them towards the end of high school, but they got passed around the dorms a lot once I got to college. ;-D

  • Lillian

    Gosh, I got it lots of places. I mean a lot of the basic medical stuff was from school, but my mom was always open to talking about it and I knew that. I think that that’s VERY important. She was very relaxed about sex and you could always say or ask anything you needed to. I’m the same with my daughter, although on a very rudimentary level yet because she’s only seven. My sexuality is very relaxed and healthy and I credit her with that.

    But then also when I got to be active, I may have bought a collection of books on the topic. Perhaps. Sex was fascinating and amazing for me from an early age, and I wanted to learn all about it from the very beginning. I bought them towards the end of high school, but they got passed around the dorms a lot once I got to college. ;-D

  • janis

    School, a very (sometimes embarassingly) open mom and grandmother (oh, the pictures that conjured!) When I was 12 or 13 my mom gave me her copy of “our bodies, ourselves” which was uncomfortably funny to me (largely the women’s lib hippie pictures on the front from the 60’s).

    And a lot of credit goes to my first sexual partner… who while he was like 9 years older than me (I initiated things for all you skeptics) took his role of mentor very seriously in terms of health, choices, showing me via friends all the various types of sexuality that exists out there (and it’s ok), birth control, hooking me up with older, more experienced female friends to talk to openly about stuff and ask questions, etc. He was probably the most caring and supportive S.O. I’ve ever had. Probably should have quit while I was ahead instead of wondering what else was out there in this new world…

  • janis

    School, a very (sometimes embarassingly) open mom and grandmother (oh, the pictures that conjured!) When I was 12 or 13 my mom gave me her copy of “our bodies, ourselves” which was uncomfortably funny to me (largely the women’s lib hippie pictures on the front from the 60’s).

    And a lot of credit goes to my first sexual partner… who while he was like 9 years older than me (I initiated things for all you skeptics) took his role of mentor very seriously in terms of health, choices, showing me via friends all the various types of sexuality that exists out there (and it’s ok), birth control, hooking me up with older, more experienced female friends to talk to openly about stuff and ask questions, etc. He was probably the most caring and supportive S.O. I’ve ever had. Probably should have quit while I was ahead instead of wondering what else was out there in this new world…

  • Where did you get most of your sex education?

    Answer: From friends and directly from sexual partners. A lot of my personal sex-ed was “hands-on” learning (pun intended), though some of the sexual education came from health classes in school. That information was limited to very vague yet technical information about the basics of “how things work”, but because we were all under 18 and had to get out parents’ permission to even take this part of the health curriculum, there was not much actual “sex” involved in what we were learning. It had more to do with child-birthing function and other medical terminology.

    Perhaps more importantly, where do you think people should get sex ed from?

    Answer: My mother could barely discuss it with me and her “sex talk” was pretty much comprised of a declaration that I should wait until I’m 18. It would have been nice if I’d had a better relationship with my mother during my teen years so that we could have discussed this more frankly. My OB/GYN doctor is also a good source, and women should feel like they can ask certain questions of their doctor, but again, this is more limited to health function rather than pleasure or intimacy.

    Should there be more or less talk about it?

    There is too much talk about “screwing” and casual sex, but I would like to hear more about couples with real sex lives who are learning about sex through each other in a safe way. Some of my questions about sex don’t have many answers on the web, as its a subject that most people are left to figure out on their own in the privacy of the bedroom. I suppose this is what that nice fluffy “couples pornography” and “sacred divine lovemaking” instructional videos are all for.

  • Where did you get most of your sex education?

    Answer: From friends and directly from sexual partners. A lot of my personal sex-ed was “hands-on” learning (pun intended), though some of the sexual education came from health classes in school. That information was limited to very vague yet technical information about the basics of “how things work”, but because we were all under 18 and had to get out parents’ permission to even take this part of the health curriculum, there was not much actual “sex” involved in what we were learning. It had more to do with child-birthing function and other medical terminology.

    Perhaps more importantly, where do you think people should get sex ed from?

    Answer: My mother could barely discuss it with me and her “sex talk” was pretty much comprised of a declaration that I should wait until I’m 18. It would have been nice if I’d had a better relationship with my mother during my teen years so that we could have discussed this more frankly. My OB/GYN doctor is also a good source, and women should feel like they can ask certain questions of their doctor, but again, this is more limited to health function rather than pleasure or intimacy.

    Should there be more or less talk about it?

    There is too much talk about “screwing” and casual sex, but I would like to hear more about couples with real sex lives who are learning about sex through each other in a safe way. Some of my questions about sex don’t have many answers on the web, as its a subject that most people are left to figure out on their own in the privacy of the bedroom. I suppose this is what that nice fluffy “couples pornography” and “sacred divine lovemaking” instructional videos are all for.

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