Balanced Views

While I’m still collecting some feedback and shuffling around my own ideas about how (or if) I should rearrange my seven types of crushes, I dug back through my archives of bookmarked articles and found a neat one from Psychology Today.

The basic idea of this article by Pepper Schwartz, is that there’s a lot more to a successful relationship than Love. There’s a lot that I agree with, to a point and for most people. For example:

Theories about love that are based on fate are not only untrue, they aren’t even in the best interest of love. Of course, Cupid forbid, if the One does not work out, you might think you’ve lost your true love and forgo giving other people a chance. Choosing the right partner is arguably the most important decision you will make. Since 1993, a multitude of studies have shown how bad relationships can negatively affect job performance, physical and mental health, financial security and even life span. Certainly, such an important decision requires more than the adrenaline rush of infatuation.

That’s a good, solid, logical idea. And one that most of us throw to the wind at a moment’s notice when we get all twitterpated by that cutie across the room.

Of course, there are statistical outliers that do have that lightening strike of True and Lasting Love… so it’s not impossible, just improbable. (Which is one of the reasons we should enjoy what we’ve got while we’ve got it–most of the time, it will change and end.)

The whole article is really worth the read, even if you’re such a hopeless romantic you’re going to disagree with a lot of it.

So, go check it out and then talk about it with me and the rest of the crushers here.

  • spleeness

    Really enjoyed that article. True – it talks about so many key components: respect, communication, chemistry. Those are essential to a good relationship.

  • spleeness

    Really enjoyed that article. True – it talks about so many key components: respect, communication, chemistry. Those are essential to a good relationship.

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