Every thing has some sort of rules to play by.
The problem is, none of us are handed a rule book when we’re born; let alone when we really need it–like when we’re teenagers. The only way to figure out the rules for something as tricky as a crush is by trial and error.
And, boy, do we err a lot when it comes to matters of the heart.
Here’s some rules that I’ve learned over the years.
The 6 Rules of Crushes
- Crushes aren’t relationships (at least not outside of your head).
- Don’t tell them you have a crush on them.
- Keep fantasy and reality separate.
- Remain optimistic while crushing on someone (it’s supposed to be at least a little fun).
- Don’t act until you’re ready to go all the way into a real relationship.
- Once you’re ready to go all the way, be ready to act when opportunity knocks.
The 6 (More) Rules of a Grown-up Crush
- Think, but don’t over think.
- Know the difference between “want” and “need.”
- Learn how to give of yourself.
- Find friendship first.
- Be willing to trade fantasy for reality.
- Above all else: Be honest.
Do those rules jive with what you’ve experienced? Do you have some that I’m missing?
I want to know.
