There are three things that influence our perception of everything we do. Two of them internal, one of them is very external. They are: Hopes, Expecectations and Reality. Our Hopes sit at the root of our crushes. It’s these wild dreams and fantasies that make us quirk an eyebrow and wonder “What if…?” when we… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Hopes, Expectations and Reality
Tag: Relationships
Hump Day Crush: Without ‘I’
Last week we talked a little about our voyeuristic tendencies when it comes to other people’s relationships. The simple fact is, we are social creatures and generally interested in the world around us. Sometimes, though, that external interest serves as a distraction from our own internal world. Our focus on–some may say obsession with–the relationships… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Without ‘I’
Hump Day Crush: Ponderings on Status
On a semi-regular basis, I toss around the idea of really dating again. After all, it’s been more than a decade now and sometimes I think I should just go for something different just for the heck of it. I know that if I were to suddenly start “playing the field”, most people I know… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Ponderings on Status
Hump Day Crush: Distractions
When things get bad in our lives, it’s common to seek distractions. If our school life is bad, we dive into recreational activities. If our home life is bad, we focus more on friends or school. If our relationships are bad… well, we do whatever we can to not address them. Crushes are prime candidates… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Distractions
Historical Fiction
All of our past is viewed through the filter of our present. That filter is imperfect. Memories fade and change in unknown ways. They blend together and are reinterpreted every time we visit them. Through repitition, some bits become more vivid than other–regardless of their accuracy. This is all doubly true when our emotional lives… Continue reading Historical Fiction
Falling and Missing the Ground
High school and middle school were tough for me. Or, at least, for the person I was then. Toughened and nearly defeated by four years of mostly total (“No I will not go out with you. Please go away.”) and partial rejection (“Oh the movies, right, uh, sure I’ll go with you, but my friend… Continue reading Falling and Missing the Ground
Hump Day Crush: Full On Ego
Last week’s piece on Grand Romantic Gestures (GRGs) spurred some interesting discussion in some areas. Pretty much all of it jumped right ahead to the point I was going to make this week. Here’s the thing that most people come to realize about GRGs–they’re an absolutely horrible way to start a relationship, but not that… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: Full On Ego