High school is a tumultuous time for most people. Hormones are doing nasty things to our insides and outsides. Social pressures are forcing us to make choices that seem so much bigger than they are. Our very minds consipire to cause us problems trying to reconcile new ideas, strange interactions and the pop culture “standards”… Continue reading Older, Wiser, Still Growing
Category: Lessons Learned
Old Habits and the King of Wishful Thinking
You’d think that with three years of a totally obsessive and self-destructive crush behind me, I’d have learned my lesson. Especially with everything else that I started to learn in high school. Well, you’d be wrong. I still had a habit of fixating on people. Usually people I was interested in dating and horribly crushing… Continue reading Old Habits and the King of Wishful Thinking
More away than home
Despite my best efforts, I never was able to fully overcome all those little anxieties that had settled into place over the yeas before high school. They were always at their worst, though, when I was surrounded by the same people who had been around when they first formed. The odd thing was, anytime I… Continue reading More away than home
Crush Genesis
With my nearly three year long destructive crush fading behind me, I discovered I had a whole lot more energy to dedicate toward thinking about relationships with other people. High school, with the plethora of pop culture mythology I had firmly loaded in my head by the time I started, struck me as the perfect… Continue reading Crush Genesis
When the seeds first sprouted
I tend to make a big deal out of my time in high school. How I make a big deal out of it has slid into different territory over the years. As I’ve gotten further away from it, the distance has allowed me to appreciate it more. Continued “personal archaeological expeditions” into that long-ago past… Continue reading When the seeds first sprouted
Caught Up, Swept Away, Crushed, Whole Again
At the beginning it’s easy to get caught up. Caught up in the rush of the crush. In the glorious spin of possibilities. In the wild imaginings of what most certainly will be. Our hearts and minds soar, our heads spin, our toes barely touch the ground. Sure there is fear and worry, but they… Continue reading Caught Up, Swept Away, Crushed, Whole Again
Hump Day Crush: No Magic Words
Over the years I’ve seen a lot of people–myself included–get caught up in the idea of the “perfect moment.” You know what I’m talking about: those movie-induced fantasies of big speeches, grand romantic gestures and fairy tale endings. Be they weddings, proposals, apologies or what have you, the idea is ingrained in us quite heavily.… Continue reading Hump Day Crush: No Magic Words